Is it me????? I was in the mall the other day (not something I do often, just not into the shopping thing) and happened to walk past Victoria’s Secret. Is it me or is there something WRONG with HUGE pictures of women clad only in their underware? I mean, i know that’s what they sell, but we all know that, so why must there be a larger than life photo of a woman with only bra and underware (and skimpy at that?). Not to mention that she has not a spot or a blemish…..or an OUNCE of body fat.
Anyway, those images do nothing for me, but I am sure our guys wouldn’t say the same. So, we really have to either keep them prayed up or locked up 
Evil is so prevalent in this world, so ladies, from sexual temptation to honesty at work and in business dealilngs, let’s just encourage them and pray their for their STRENGTH.
Question for you? Do you think its important to look good when you are “just” at home or when (if you stay home) your husband gets home? And what does “good” mean to you?
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Well, I haven’t said or though ONE negative word to or about my husband today, but now I’m getting out of bed so it could get tricky
Loretta
Unfortunately, there is often that attitude (whether spoken or unspoken) that we don’t have to “do” anything else to make ourselves look attractive once we’ve “hooked” him. But I think it’s important to still continue the things that make us feminine and attractive to our husbands. If we were “just dating” him; if we had just met him, or if (yeah, I’m going to go THERE) we were having an affair with him … we would make SURE that we looked good, smelled good, acted good …
The little extra things that we do go a long way in our husbands minds and hearts. When they go out into the world, there is always someone who tries her best to attract a man. And I don’t care how your man may look to YOU … trust me, he starts looking mighty good to someone else.
We don’t have to look like Miss America every second of the day, but I think it’s important to fix ourselves up daily. If I’m gong to wear make up for “the man”, why can’t I wear it for MY man?
You make a good point! It’s funny that we dress up to go out and dress down to stay in with our spouses. hmmmmmm.
I’ll be honest, I had to BUST out laughing when I read your post today and answered the question “What is ‘good’?” The FIRST thing that popped in my mind was “Awake!”
Looking ‘good’. That is funny Steph. Yes we need to be awake first. I like to get into some lounge pants and a t-shirt (holes and all) when I get home. I have the luxury of doing that because my husband is still at work. The tricky part is when he is home because the same attitude continues. I get the sense that it does not bother him around the house..but not the bedroom. The house is separate from the bedroom! I make light of it sometimes because you would think entering the bedroom is stepping onto a luxurious yacht (don’t get me wrong, it is pretty special to me too).
I also change with the seasons. I like the frumpy look in the cold months..because I like to feel warm and the frumpy clothes does it. I have kids so I cant hang out on the yacht all the time.
Okay, true confessions…….. I can’t believe I posed this question and I have been walking around in ragged sweats, a sweater (either on or around my waist depending on my body temp) and a scarf on my head ALL DAY. Mind you, its magnified because my husband NEVER slums. His idea of dressing down is perfectly ironed jeans, with a izod type shirt tucked in, complete with belt and shoes (not sneakers). THAt is what he put on to shovel snow (just added a nice sweatshirt and stylish low cut leather boots for a little protecton against the elements).
Of course, I can always count on my son to say something like, “mommy, why did you change clothes so late in the day?” just as my husband walks in the door 
So, ya’ll pray for me, cuz I need help. I’m not usually THAT bad, but I have been found at 5:45, just before he gets home running upstairs to change into something that at least doesn’t have holes in it
I think we are victims of this whole pretty thing! Dont get me wrong, we are so conditioned to look a certain way and when we get married (as the years go by) we dont want to play no more. At least Im speaking for myself. I love to dress up - but when im going out. It is difficut trying to strike a balance and not get carried away. We can get lost in translation.
Loretta, the good part is that you changed into something more acceptable. That can send an ‘I love and care about you’ msg that is just as powerful. We just have to keep reminding ourselves that we MUST THROW OUT THOSE OLD CLOTHES! Maybe keep one. And do it. If we dont have them to wear we would find more suitable attire??? Come to think of it, that is what my husband does. He does not hang on to things like I do - they get old he throws them out.
Ha ha ha…you are not alone. I wear scrubs all day long and even if I freshin’ up I jump back into a fresh pair of scrubs which are my husbands old scrubs that have some kind of markings on it. I have a two year old and a one year old and I can guarantee that at least by mid-day I have a few stains more than what I had when I put on my stained scrubs. So to me dressing up (or any other way) is not practical.
Another thing is my husband loves the ‘I’ve been workin’ hard all day’ look. When I try to push him away when I think I am not acceptable, he in turn tells me I look hot! GO FIGURE.
I think men understand (if you are a homemaker) that things do get a little taxing. So while the kids are young, I am making little effort to look fantastic at home. As they grow I plan to change that. I think I will change that, more for me than my husband. There are more important things that they care about than how you look. They begin to focus on that when other areas aren’t being fulfilled.
We also need to give men a little more credit and ourselves too. I have enough additional qualities that should be higher on the rank list of ‘invaluable’ than how I look. And he should be intelligent enough and caring enough to see past how I look today and recognize all that has been done for me to look this way.
I take the wisdom on what is important to men and customize it to ‘my man’. I could be dressing my butt off and all he wants is a home cooked meal and a smile. I let him tell me what’s important to him and work on his list first before I start placing my efforts in directions that I think I should go or have been told I should go. I do those things as added extras to ‘his’ list of importance.
I am enjoying this 30/31 day challenge for husbands but I certainly can’t wait for day 32 so I can start searching the internet for the one for wives. We are partners and I feel I am growing a little ahead of him and I want to take him with me…not to mention the added benefits.
Well, I can’t say that I’ve been told i look hot when I am not
Lillysvilliage, your husband is definitely on to something! Just get rid of the grungy stuff. For some reason though, I am just messy. I even tried to just dress decent from the morning and wear and apron or smock, so that I can just toss it to the side and viola! I’m a supermodel when he walks into the door. Well, maybe not a supermodel, but you get my point. I tend to think my guy would prefer the smell of good food and a relatively straight house most though.
Barb, I think you are right. Find out what is important to him and go from there. Yeah, we do need to give them some credit, they love the inner us, but hey, when supermodels abound and VS has slightly clad women at every turn, its hard to “compete” with that.
Ruthie, you are right. We can shuck and jive if we want to, but some woman will do what it takes to GET his attention, while we rest in the fact that we already have it.